I’m sure if you follow me on Instagram, you’ll see that I just had a baby boy born at 24.5 gestation. I’ve also had a daughter born at 30.1 weeks and my oldest son at 34 weeks. Clearly this mama isn’t meant to carry babies full term.
I have 4 kids all together so that makes one child I’ve actually carried to term and came home with me from the hospital. I feel that having my oldest at 34 weeks was preparing me for my daughter, then having my daughter prepared me for Malakai.
Malakai’s situation is much different from my others. With him being so premature, his lungs were just not ready. I was able to receive steroids in all of my premature births but they didn’t quite have the effect on Malakai as they did on the others. A lot has to do with his gestational age. He was on a ventilator with a tube for 40 days. That hurts, so because of that he’s developed a love of morphine and then he starts to have withdrawals. He literally gets .2ml of medication, that’s nothing yet it’s all he needs. He has now been switched to a cpap mask that they can use with a nasal cannulae as well. It gives him so many breaths per minute and also allows him to take his own breaths as well. With my oldest, he needed no support and my daughter was on a liter of oxygen for two days. At 30 weeks gestation, that’s pretty unbelievable.
What happened that night is nothing short of a miracle. I knew that I get hypertension in pregnancy so I was really diligent to watch it. The reason why blood pressure is so imperative in pregnancy is because that is the indication of blood flow to your placenta then to the baby. You have high BP, your placenta is getting too little nutrition. Your baby can essentially stop growing, then stop breathing. I had been admitted into the hospital on Saturday and released Monday. My BP on Tuesday 9/29 was 172/85. I knew I needed to go back to the hospital. I was admitted again, given medication and all throughout the night the doctor would ask if the NICU came to speak to me about delivery just in case. I didn’t realize it was as serious as it was.
Then around 5am on 9/30 I started getting extremely bad gas pain, I’ve never felt anything like that. I was given more medicine and oxygen and tried to walk around. I kept my eye on the monitor and his heart rate was around 150 but no ups and downs. They want the fluctuations because that shows good blood flow and good activity. When my son would move, it almost felt as if my insides were being churned. It was very slow and felt like a contraction but it was his movements.
Around 7am the doctor rushed in and told me I was going to have a c-section. Ten minutes later, I was being wheeled into the operating room. I was alone, I needed my husband but I also needed to be strong for my son. With my husband on his way, they started the surgery almost immediately. There are windows in the operating room allowing them to pass the babies directly to the NICU for emergency resuscitation. All I could ask was if he was ok and all I was told was that he was born alive. I got to see him 4 hours after he was born and I got to hold him when he was 10 days old. It has been a long road and it’ll be an even longer road once he’s home and learning.
What I have to offer to moms and the difficulty of the NICU and the unknown is that all it takes is second by second, minute by minute. It does get easier, it does become redundant and there are days that you don’t even want to be there. Be strong and take care of yourself. Your kids are well taken care of and so this gives you the opportunity to get better. Mental health is so important in these trying times. Also, listen to your body. Know what isn’t right and who cares who you bother on your way. Sometimes you do get the feeling of being an inconvenience or being paranoid but more than likely, you’ll be right. It’s mothers intuition that helps get your baby to where they need to be.
With Malakai, we have a long ways to go, it almost feels like it will never end. However, I see his pictures from when he was born and what a difference 50ish days make. All my children were meant to be here but I feel his mission is much greater considering all the battles he’s faced. I can’t wait to share updates with all of you and I can’t thank everyone enough. Thank you for the prayers and thank you for your thoughts.
Nothing is better than taking something that you never thought was possible and turning it into something rad. That totally happened with this cake and some Trix cereal. Who doesn’t love funfetti cake? Whoever doesn’t is clearly losing in life! You have to try this cake and don’t forget to get the box that has the Skylanders on it. You get the Skystones game and it’s so fun to play with the kids. I’ll explain that in a bit.
So for the cake, you’ll want to soak 1 1/2 cups of cereal in a small amount of milk for about 2-3 minutes just to soften the cereal so you don’t get chewy/gross pieces in your cake. Not drowned it, just moisten them.
My secret and my best ever advice is to go to your favorite bakery and ask to buy some of their frosting. They’ll usually sell it by the pound. My local bakery sells it for $5/lb. and it’s much more time efficient and tastes much better than store bought frosting. I prefer the cream cheese frosting for this recipe and you could even add some softened Trix cereal into it as well. I wanted a cleaner look to the cake and added the Skylanders character, Spyro, to the top. I was almost tempted to paint him gold but I refrained. I added the Trix cereal all along the edge just for another extra touch.
Now for the best part, Skystones! Hidden inside select boxes of General Mills cereal, you’ll find it specially marked with Skylanders, is a special pack of Skystones. On the back of each box is the game board and you can collect up to 4 boxes of Skystones to unlock special characters in the mobile Skylanders game. If you’ve played the video game before, this is just a physical game of the card game. On the cards you have a character and each side has a number of ‘arrows’ and you want to put that card next to a card with less ‘arrows’. If you have more ‘arrows’, you’ll be able to turn that card around to either blue or red, depending on which team you are. The whole point is that you want to dominate the board. I really hope I explained this so that you parents understand it, lol. I do much better in laymen terms and I’m a visual learner.
With that being said, I had some of our neighbor boys come over with my boys and we opened our box that came in the mail. These boys were so excited. I let them take home an empty box of course, I can’t let them take my GM cereal! My boys were pretty funny afterwards and we’re trying to trade cards. I’m glad I got that civil moment on tape.
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This shop has been compensated by Collective Bias, Inc. and its advertiser. All opinions are mine alone. #DisneyEaster #CollectiveBiasEaster is such a fun holiday for our family. In our city, our extended family has always lived on the same block, I know! My grandma cooks for us and we all go over and have a big buffet with all the cousins, aunts and uncles. Afterwards, we go into the field next door and hunt for Easter eggs. My generation knows the tricks, always shake them or go for the light ones, they have the money. It usually tends to be a competition between my brother and I, which one of our kids can get the most money since now we’re to ‘old’ to hunt, lol.So for our own little family, I wanted to start a new Easter tradition and Disney has some fun things for all my kids to be satisfied with. For Leila, she wanted FROZEN, what child hasn’t loved that movie lately? Walmart has some of the best selection for Easter this year to fill those baskets for your young ones.
For Siaki, I went with The Avengers theme because he loves Hulk and Iron Man, he always has. When he was a little boy, we bought both boys those giant Hulk gloves to box each other. We still sometimes bring them out because they just need to inflict some pain on one another once in a while.For the F man, we went with the classic Star Wars. Granted, they didn’t have as many things in the store for Star Wars, but he’s always been a huge fan and we can just binge watch those movies for days. He’s always been into those movies and that really what the best thing about Disney is, they are classics and everyone enjoys them. “If you can dream it, you can do it!” – Walt DisneyNow, let me know what your Easter traditions are and what you plan to put into your Easter baskets? I’d love to hear!
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If you’ve read my blog for a while, you know I have three children. My oldest is 9, and he is the deepest sleeper I know. I wish I had his ability. Yet, he also has an issue, bedwetting. I am always heading to my local Kroger store and buying GoodNites for a good deal. I bought him the GoodNites* TRU-FIT* Underwear Starter Pack and the GoodNites* TRU-FIT* Insert Refill Pack
It’s something that has happened for years and I can pinpoint exactly when he started having trouble. I had him all potty trained and then he had to have his circumcision redone when he was 3. It was from there that he was always hesitant to use the bathroom until the last second. He was continuously having small accidents and so I began to become a very frustrated mom.
I tried everything from patience to frustration. I felt as if nothing was helping him remember to use the bathroom before he went to bed or to stop drinking by 7pm. Well, now he is old enough for accountability. If he has an accident, he is responsible for changing his sheets and washing them. If he doesn’t, he is grounded. We of course had some crying in the beginning but it has subsided and now I have found myself not even mentioning it when it happens. If you think you’re child is just too old to be doing this, you’re not alone and many children still do it. Here are some facts”
According to a GoodNites® brand study, it’s estimated that 1 in 6 children between the ages of 4-12 in the United States suffer from nocturnal enuresis, more commonly known as bedwetting
Research from the American Academy of Pediatrics shows that psychologically, children who wet the bed do not want to participate in fun activities, such as sleepovers, because of their fear and embarrassment.
Many parents don’t realize that bedwetting is a fairly common, developmental condition and they can’t “train” their child out of it.
He’s extremely self conscious about this and it also has a lot to do with the fact that his younger brother doesn’t have this same problem. Many bodies are different and it’s just an issue that the body has to outgrow. I firmly believe that you need to be covered thoroughly on everything. Grab a plastic mattress protector, have some extra sheets on hand and most definitely have some GoodNites that you can grab at your local Kroger retailer. I also don’t find those electrical underwear to be very ethical. I mean, if it’s already happening then why shock you to stop? They literally cannot stop, their bladder is FULL!
I will tell you that we have a full/twin bunk bed for our boys and we bought a $50 new mattress for him. I purposely bought this because of his bedwetting issues and so when his body does start to grow out of this, we can just throw it out and I won’t feel bad about it one bit! The GoodNites actually very useful and now he can wear them in secret and not have him brother tease him in the process. The joy of raising boys!
So let me know, do you have any kids with bed-wetting issues in your family? What kinds of tips do you have? Let me know and make sure you enter the giveaway below, good luck!